Meghan Markle was called “bossy” in the months before her wedding to Prince Harry, according to royal writer Sally Bedell Smith. She shared these details on her Substack Royals Extra after speaking with Lady Elizabeth Anson. Lady Anson was the late Queen Elizabeth’s cousin and one of her closest friends. She was also a top party planner.
Lady Anson said Meghan’s father, Thomas Markle, was actually scared to attend the wedding in May 2018. They had even planned for him to come through a side door at St. George’s Chapel because he did not like steps.
In February 2018, Lady Anson met Meghan to discuss wedding ideas. Meghan was polite and charming but quickly dismissed all suggestions, saying she could not decide anything until Harry returned from Botswana.
Later, Harry told Lady Anson that he and Meghan had chosen to handle the wedding differently and claimed the Queen was fine with this. But Lady Anson said the Queen privately told her she was not happy at all and worried that Meghan could cause problems.
The Queen was also upset that Meghan would not share any details about her wedding dress. During one meeting, Harry was reportedly rude to the Queen for about ten minutes.
Lady Anson said Harry damaged his relationship with his grandmother and that the Queen was deeply upset by how the wedding planning went. Harry also ignored royal protocol by asking the Archbishop of Canterbury to perform the ceremony without first checking with the Dean of Windsor, who is in charge of St. George’s Chapel.
By the end of April, Harry tried to smooth things over by visiting the Queen alone and later sending her more information about the wedding.
There were more problems with Meghan’s father Thomas, who ended up missing the wedding because of health issues. Meghan was then walked down the aisle by Harry’s father, now King Charles. Lady Anson said the Queen was privately very worried. She believed Meghan was becoming more and more bossy.
At first, the Royal Family hoped Meghan would help modernize the monarchy, especially as a biracial woman who could represent a new, diverse Britain. But six months after the wedding, palace staff and senior royals were troubled by how opinionated and forceful Meghan seemed. They felt she did not want to fit in and instead tried to push her own views on Harry.
